Halow everyone and welcome today, we're going to learn about 18
psychological facts of about love.
1. CHANGING CHEMISTRY
When you fall in love it changes the chemistry of your brain not only does love release exciting hormones and create new emotions it also inspires your brain to give up bad habits addictive behaviours for example are easier for your brain to ignore when you fall in love according to a 2017 study from the journal PLoS ONE passionate love diminishes your reactivity to addictive behavior in other words love is so distracting that your brain stops craving your bad habits if you ever want to change your bad habits do it at the beginning of a relationship love will make it much easier to let go of your addictions.
2. A LOVING LOOK
If someone really loves you, you'll see it in their eyes alright let's say you're having dinner with your partner do they spend the entire date looking around the room or do they spend it starting at you when you look at someone you love your brain release a chemical called oxytocin also known as the love or cuddle hormone and because of this hormone you view your partner as more desirable than anyone else in the world in other words if your partner is starting at you it's because they're in love with you.
3. PREDICTIVE BRAIN SCANS
How do you know if you and your partner will stay together many people think relationships are a guessing game but researchers beg to differ according to a 2011 study in the journal HUMAN BRAIN MAPPING brain scans show whether or not your love is going to last researchers scan the brains of people in the early stages of a relationship all brain scans showed signs of love but only a few scans showed activity in the reward and motivation centers of the brain it turns out this group was far more likely to stay with their partners researchers checked in with their participants 18 months later and found most of these couples were still happily in love.
4. INSTINCTUAL GUARDING
Falling in love means embracing vulnerability but it's not always natural or easy for many people love has an edverse reaction instead of encouraging them to open up they become guarded and distant this is especially problematic for men who struggle with commitment they're scared to express themselves or put their emotions on the line so once they do fall in love they pull away luckily patients and good communication can bring these walls crumbling down.
5. ATTENTIONAL MIGRATION
Why do you want to know every little thing about your partner normally we only pay attention to the big stuff life changes crises success stories even with friends and family we rarely pay attention to the tiny details of their life but romantic love changes the way we pay attention physically and emotionally we fall in love with the smallest details we notice minuscule changes in a partner's appearance we notice insignificant quirks and habits we care about the details of their day the people they talk to and even the food they ate when you notice and care about these tiny details your brain is in love.
6. VERBAL GROUPING
When your partner makes plans do they say i or we after falling in love our language begins to change without realizing it we stop referring to ourselves and start referring to our relationship as a single unit instead of saying i'm going to a holiday party this weekend you may instinctively say we're going to a holiday party this weekend this change in language tells you two things you're happy in your relationship and you're in it for the long term.
7. A SMOOTH COMPROMISE
In any healthy relationship compromise is key but did you know that love makes it easier to compromise the more love struck you're the more willing you're to compromise with your partner when you love someone you care about their needs as much as your own youbwant them to feel satisfied and supported even if you have to give something up but what if you're not in love if you're in a relationship but not in love you're less willing to compromise your needs you care about yourself more than your partner you're more likely to be stubborn.
8. CYCLE OF APPRECIATION
Loving partners want to make each other happy they enjoy doing favors and making small sacrifices but love thrives off of gratitude if you do your partner a favor but they don't appreciate you, your feelings of love can backfire that disappointment will discourage you from doing your partner favors in the future but what if your partner does appreciate your contributions their gratitude rewards and recognizes your love and that keeps your partnership strong and healthy.
9. LONGER LIVES
Does love impact your physical health according to harvard health publishing long-term relationships may increase the lifespan of the average male men in relationships are not only living longer they're also happier on average committed men are more satisfied less anxious and physically healthier than men who are single now love doesn't guarantee every man a long and healthy life but the results speak for themselves.
10. LOVING THE OPPOSITION
Do opposites attract many people wonder whether partners should be similar or different the answer is a little bit of both relationships are stronger when partners have similar interests and values but that doesn't mean you and your partner should be exactly the same personality differences for example improve the likelihood of long-term love just think about relationships like a puzzle if you have two of the same puzzle pieces well they aren't going to fit together you only need one of each puzzle piece to make a puzzle that's why a loving relationship contains two different puzzle pieces which complement each other's strengths if you found the right person your opposite edges will fit together perfectly.
11. BEATING TOGETHER
According to a 2013 study from the university of colifornia davis couples connect on a unique physical level researchers found that heartbeats will synchronize when partners stare into each other's eyes loving partners develop such a strong bond their hearts actually beat together.
12. FINDING LOVE AGAIN
Divorce is one of the scariest things in any relationship you thought you found your soul mate you may have spent many happy years together but your relationship started to fall apart eventually it disappeared altogether but that doesn't mean that you'll never again a small percentage of people find lifelong happiness in their first marriage around 40 of first marriages end in divorce or separation but a majority of those people marry again if you've experienced a divorce remember that divorce isnt the end of your love life sooner or later you may find someone you love even more.
13. BRIGHTENING YOUR LIFE
According to a 2014 study in the JOURNAL OF PERSONALITY love can change your entire outlook on the world this study tested 245 young adults over a nine month period they discovered that individuals in love were significantly more optimistic than people who weren't in other words the present of a partner can change the way you think and make the world a brighter place.
14. SOUL MATES ON PLACE
You never know when or where you'll fall in love you may fall for a close friend you may develop feelings for someone at work or maybe you'll find love in the skies according to a survey of 50,000 travelers 1 in 50 people met someone they love during a flight the next time you're on a place talk to the people sitting next to you you never know who yiu might meet.
15. THE SCENT OF LOVE
Vision isn't the only sense that creates love and attraction smell plays an equally important role the chemicals or pheromones inside your partner create a specific scent if you're attracted to someone you're drawn to their smell just like you're drawn to their appearance many partners wear each other's clothes and sleep on each others pillows because they love their partners individual scent.
16. THE PERFECT RECIPE
What's the secret to a long and healthy relationship according to a 2014 study in the journal personal relationships the answer is honesty researchers told couples periodically to share their feelings and intentions about the future of their relationship they discovered that couples who were honest were much more likely to stay together there's no foolproof recipe to make your relationship last but research shows that honesty plays a substantial role.
17. FAITHFUL INTELLIGENCE
About 22 percent of partners are unfaithful at least once but not all partners are likely to cheat studies have shown that unfaithful partners on average are less intelligent and score lower on IQ tests on the other hand highly intelligence partners are far less likely to be unfaithful.
18. CLOSENESS IN COMEDY
What's the best way to bond with your partner a 2015 study in the journal personal relationships recommends watching comedy when couples laugh together they form strong positive bonds together laugher and love foster cioseness and improve the quality of your relationship find time to watch comedy with your partner because few things bring couples closer than laughter.
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