5 SIMPLE TRICKS TO GROW YOUR CONFIDENCE

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1. CONQUERING CONFLICT

Confidence and conflict will they just don't go well together when something seems like it could go wrong your fears often your confidence if something actually does go wrong then shame and guilt can have the exact same effect because conflict has so much a negative potential you might avoid it all costs but this mindset is keeping you from growing into a more confident person we derive the most self esteem from our ability to overcome obstacles conquered conflicts show you exactly what you're capable of those feelings of pride and triumph will boost your performance and motivate you to tackle new challenges.

You can easily grow your confidence by confronting and resolving small conflicts it could be anything from an argument with a co-worker to a clash of personalities it's important to practice handling those little conflicts effectively eventually you'll work your way up from miner issues to major ones and by them those conflicts won't seem nearly as intimidating your fears will unravel and your confidence will soar giving you the tools to handle even the rockiest situations.

2. PARTIAL OBJECTIVITY

How can someone be truly objective about their life own life can you rarely remove all personal biases from any decision most people would argue that you couldn't and they're probably right it's impossible to make something 100% objective everything you think or everything you know has been influenced by something in fact, the person that you're is largely a product of the world around you.

Your parents and friends shaped you personality your school molded you interests the entire framework that you use to judge everything comes from somewhere and this means you can never really remove yourself from any choice that you make but it doesn't hurt to try imagine you're starting your first day at a new job it's a higher position than you've ever had before you're detemined to excel but you're nervous about making a good first impression.

You want to seem strong and conferent you want your co-workers to like and respect you but all you're feeling right now is anxiety and self-doubt you're convinced that the moment you step into that office they'll see right through you they'll know exactly how scared you're so, hiw can objectively help you make the ideal first impression objective thinking will train you to block out your fears you can free yourself from that swirling vortex of doubts and uncontrollable emotions objectivity gives you a much-needed sense of control ever your life because it shows you where you needed to grow.

in other words being objective before your first day on the job will force you to change your perspective instead, of constantly worrying about how others will perceive you, you can reflect on how you see yourself do you think you're confident? do you think you deserve their respect? ultimately your goal isn't to anticipate the judgments of every person in the room that's just not realistic even if you're the most confident person in the world.

There will always be people who want to criticize you it also helps to remember that everyone in the room has their own set of insecurities none of them will judge you harder than you judge yourself because they already have enough to worry about while you're scared of looking insecure they might be worried about coming off as annoying or lazy so, when i say be objective i mean try to view yourself from the lens of one hypothetical person who isn't you.

If you can satisfy that person then you have nothing to worry about but what's the point of knowing all this if objectively isn't even possible well that isn't entirely true you can't be 100% objective but you can be let's say 80 or 70 percent partial objectively is way better than none it still shifts your perspective builds confidence and relieve stress partial objectively will still show you where you're going wrong it really isn't important that you learn how to be completely objective right away but don't waste your time worrying about little biases here and there the simple fact that you're trying to look objectively at your life is often enough to change it.

3. DESTRUCTIVE MODESTY

People who struggle with confidence frequently fail to see what they have to offer the world this is especially common for new artists and entrepreneurs you look out on thousands of professionals who carve their niche in the world and you feel like you don't belong it seems like each one of them has a special something that you just don't a message to send change they want to make or maybe you do have something you want to say you're just too worried about what other people will think to say it in certain situations this kind of modesty isn't terrible it's always beneficial to keep yourself and your work in perspective it helps you to manage.

Expectation and relieve pressure it will help you stay humble in the face of failure but that some modesty will diminish your confidence it'll keep you from understanding your worth it's easy to look at all the other amazing people in your field and value what they have to offer but it's much harder to feel the same way about something you've created to build your confidence.

Remember that whatever you create will be one-of-a-kind whether you like it or not even if you have the same idea as someone else the fact that it's yours will completely change how it turns out just look at all the different companies out there that make the exact same product or the artists that experiment with identical subject matter you may not think you have anything to offer the world but your unique perspective is plenty.

4. PREPARE FOR NIGHTMARES

Lack of confidence often stems from a fear of the unknown when you're thrown into a new situation you might feel out of control you're jumbled is old and confused which will destroy your self-esteem you might feel paralyzed simply because you don't know what's waiting on the other side here take this example you're working an office job that you don't really like you always talk about how you want to purpose your dreamin the arts but there aren't any openings suddenly the ideal position opens up you could submit an application right away  yet you let the opportunity pass you.

By instead of going for your dream you stick with the same old office job why because it's easy and familiar you know what's expected of you, you know how to handle challenges yes you've always dreamed of having that position but you don't know if you can actually handle it you aren't confident enough to dive headfirst into the unknown luckily there's an easy trick to help you move past that fear you have to prepare for the worth situation that you can possibly think of start by visualizing it step by step you can even act it out.

If you want to the most important part is that you experience your biggest nightmare way ahead of time after you've rehearsed your nightmare you should figure out how to stop it from happening there's nothing wrong with taking precautions people often get scared that being cautious brings your fears to life but that isn't how it works in fact addressing your fears directly often stops them from impeding your performance.

 so, far example if you're worried about messing up your speech you should bring note cards with you know that doesn't mean you're doomed to go blank in the middle of your presentation nine times out of ten simply having those notes cards in your pocket will keep you from using them in other words taking precautions isn't just a solution when things go wrong it will also keep your nightmares from coming to life.

5. DEFEND YOURSELF

Your lack of confidence might come from the people around you they might belittle your ideas or make your question your goals they can fill your head with so many doubts that your confidence just falls by the wayside it's tempting to take what other people say is fact especially if you've low self-esteem you might naturally assume that everyone knows what's best for you better than you do well look let's say for example that a classmate shoots down one of your ideas for a presentation.

Most people would believe them they look down on their own ideas and then feel hesitant to say anything else instead, of taking a leadership role they just fade into the background all because someone didn't like their idea but why does one person's opinion feel like such a big deal well when someone doesn't like what you're saying it doesn't seem like just one person you wonder if everyone else is thinking the same thing oftentimes the spotlight effect will start to kick in you feel like you're the center of every bit of negative attention.

You start to imagine all the critical things that people might say to you and before long you can't even think about the project because you're worried about being judged so, how do you turn this situation around how can someone else's criticisms build your confidence instead of destroying it when someone insults your ideas or goals stand up for yourself.

if you liked an idea enough to say it out loud then it's worth defending those doubtful voices in your head may not go away that easily but it's important that you actively believe in yourself this builds confidence by forcing you to value your own opinion more than other people's yes constructive criticism is important sometimes you need other perspective to see something clearly but most of the time your opinion matters far more than anyone else's so if you believe in something don't let anyone tear you down.